Seven Reasons to read this blog on a recipe for a happy marriage:
- You are looking for Mr. Right or Mrs. Wonderful and want help to succeed.
- You are planning the wedding and you want the marriage to be just as perfect.
- The honeymoon is over and you just discovered this will take some effort.
- Your marriage is good but you know it could be better.
- You’ve been married a short while and just had your first big fight.
- Your best friend just got divorced and you wonder if you’re next.
- You’re committed to give it one more try and are looking for all the help you can get.
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Looking for Mr. Right or Mrs. Wonderful…..
Common wisdom suggests that opposites attract and that we connect with people on our own level. The tragic stories of lovers like Romeo and Juliet justify these ideas by their undying popularity and continual retelling from the musical West Side Story; and the Broadway hit Grease. You may not fall for the guy from the other side of town or for the girl from down in the boondocks. However, chances are pretty good that you will be attracted to someone regardless of any preconceived plan or decision. Your choice will seem random but there are things you can do to make the choice more positive. You can become the best person you can be. Understanding more about appreciating your differences may help.
The little knows secret to a lasting and loving relationship is to become the best person you can be because, you see, we really do attract on our own level. This is a subtle truth that isn’t always obvious. You may say how is it possible that saintly woman attracted that awful man if this is true. I guarantee you upon deeper knowledge of them you would find their wounds fit together like a hand and glove.
Much of the wisdom and advice you will find in this blog can be applied to all of our relationships. The communication skills, the values, the helpful hints, the common sense and common courtesies will help you now and help you grow into the person your future spouse is going to find attractive.
Planning the wedding…plan for the marriage.
You’ve made the right choice. So many people do it the other way. When all else fails, then they read the instructions. Engagement is the time to take your relationship to the next level. It’s not marriage. That won’t happen until you both say “I do.” However, you are no longer just dating. Even if you are already living together, making the big decision is added commitment on the one hand and less than being fully married on the other. You may want to check out “Marriage Advice for Newly Weds”
So many people don’t bother with an engagement period these days. They may think “hey we have been living together why bother?” Engagement is a deeper commitment on many levels and it will give you an opportunity to observe how each of you reacts to a deepened commitment. What you will learn in this book will help you move in the right direction and create the recipe for a marriage that will last tasting sweeter as the years go by.
The honeymoon is over and this is going to take effort
So up until now it has been perfect. You want what see wants. She loves what you love. Being together, in all kinds of ways is all that counts. However, a dose of reality has set in, big time. The bills are piling up. The chores need to be done. He’s working overtime. She lost her job. Your brother wants to borrow $1000. The car broke down. You name it. Life keeps on happening and getting married didn’t fix everything.
Yes, this book is for you too. The communication and problem solving skills will be most helpful. Be sure to pay special attention to the lessons from PREP.Inc on the 4 behaviors all couples must avoid! Learn more about what love is and isn’t in “The Four Aspects of Love“.
Your marriage is good but it could be better.
Every relationship has strengths and positives as well as its stresses and strains. You have been doing well maximizing the one and minimizing the other. However, your gut tells you and your heart yearns for things to be just a little bit better.
You have come to the right place. It may be time to renew sensuality (It’s not just sex). You will find some important tips on renewing and preserving friendship and on the differences between men and women. There are ways here to move those little annoyances and big problems to a new perspective. They will no longer be between you. Instead you will be side by side solving them together.
You have been married a while …just had your first fight.
First of all let me encourage you. All relationships have ups and downs. The important thing is to fight fair. Learning the communication skills in the book will be very helpful. Learning what behaviors to avoid in disagreements (or always) will be critical. Learning how to forgive and be forgiven will be essential. Put these tools together with the rest of the book and you will be the happiest couple you know.
Your best friend got divorced …are you next?
It’s no secret. The divorce rate hovers around 50% at best. It’s so bad many couples decide just to live together, as if that could solve the break up potential. However, when you began to read this book you upped your odds! The lessons you learn here about communicating, problem solving, mutual respect, and forgiveness will each add to your marital happiness and success. Pay close attention to the behaviors you need to avoid. Come to understand the differences between men and women. Put everything you learn here into practice and your marriage will get better and keep moving in a positive direction.
Let’s give it one more try!
If you are both willing to give it one more try, hope has not died. Neither has your marriage. You have taken the first step and it will get better. Chances are you have been doing the four things guaranteed to destroy a marriage. Identifying these negatives and cutting them out of your interactions will be a huge first step. As a result you will be ready to learn the other lessons regarding communication, problem solving and forgiveness. Friendship and romance will reemerge and you will again have cooked up a happy marriage recipe.
By now I hope you have decided that regardless of how your relationship is today you are ready to read on to find how you can prepare your own special recipe for a happy marriage.
You will also learn about marriage and household chores. After sex, money and children issues, division of labor is one of the major points of conflicts in many marriages. Also covered is the subject of how family affects marriage.
I hope you enjoy and find this information helpful in you marriage.